I suppose when you see the headline of this article you might wonder why we’re even asking the question. After all, isn’t that what men want? Isn’t that why all porn shows women shaven – ahem – “down there”?
But is this just another aspect of the patriarchy? Men requiring women to look and act a certain way, simply to please those very same men?
If so, why do women succumb so easily to those expectations? Could it be that women have learned something from experience? That they need to indulge men’s desires to stay safe or for some other advantage?
Or is shaving pubic hair just a reflection of the patriarchy? A sign of how men control women’s sexual expression?
After all, there’s plenty of evidence that the patriarchy controls much of our society. On average women earn 25% less than men for the same jobs. Men dominate conversations. (Women who talk for 25% of the time in a conversation are seen as spending equal time talking to men. Women talk for between 25 and 50% of the time in conversation are seen as dominating the conversation.)
And so it goes on.
And sure, for a long time, women did what men wanted so they could maintain their position as wives or partners or whatever. Maybe they still do.
But is it possible, I wonder, that women want to do what men want because they get some inner satisfaction from pleasing a man in this way?
Don’t get me wrong here. Of course I’m not talking about women earning 25% less than men in equivalent jobs as something that women do to please men.
Far from it. I’m not mad. I don’t see male-female relationships in terms of subordination and dominance.
What I’m wondering is whether pleasing a man gives a woman some sense of satisfaction. I mean, otherwise, why would women depilate, wax, and shave their pubic hair?
Surely this is something that women do because they think it pleases a man in bed?
The discomfort, the expense, and time involved in depilation is considerable. Question is, do women do this for themselves or for men?
If you read this article you initially get the impression that this is a feminist treatise examining whether or not women shave because they want to. But you’re not under that illusion for long – this is a very subtle but quite obvious analysis of what men think of shaved pubic hair on women. And basically the article is encouraging women to shave for the sake of men’s sexual preferences.
There’s a much more interesting and balanced article here which gives a good case for retaining your pubic hair. And it’s written, interestingly enough, by a woman who has clearly thought out this issue for herself.
So. Where do we go from here? We know that pubic hair is becoming almost an extinct species in women under 30. This may be because their boyfriends have seen women in porn who are, almost without exception, completely shaved. Now they expect that from their wives and girlfriends.
What’s more disturbing is that women are becoming alienated from their own pubic hair because of men’s expectations.
And so it’s amusing, perhaps, to note that are men are now finding a woman who has a full bush to be an erotic turn on. Why? Because she’s “a real woman”.
Which makes me wonder how men see girls with shaved nether regions. There’s certainly something unpleasantly creepy about the pre-pubescent association of hairlessness.
One survey claims to have discovered that 79% of men prefer a woman shaved or waxed. Strangely enough, that figure’s been quoted over and over again round the Internet. But is it true?
If you read this article, what men really seem to want is trimming rather than shaving. And that makes a lot of sense. The “view” is better but things still look natural. And, of course, there’s a lot less danger of getting hair caught in your teeth when you’re doing oral!
So what’s the bottom line? Everyone on the Internet who’s got an opinion on this has an ax to grind.
But maybe, when a woman’s shaving her pubes just to please a man, she’s also ignoring her own needs and desires. Maybe there’s tendency in women to do that, maybe not.
Either way, I encourage you to think hard and long about what you want before you start shaving, waxing or depilating.
Don’t do it simply because you think it might please your man when you’re in bed together.
How many women are shaving or waxing?
Can this really be true? According to Maxin, yes it can: There’s a pretty big difference between men and women when it comes to keeping their bush tidy: while 69 percent men prefer to simply trim their pubes and keep things shipshape, the majority of women, meaning 57 percent, go for the Brazilian and get rid of everything on their lady garden for optimum tidiness.
Men definitely expected their partners to be groomed. In fact, 46 percent of men said they prefer their partners to be completely hairless. Women, on the other hand, said they prefer the dude they’re sleeping with to be nicely manscaped, as opposed to being completely clean shaven.
A Pleasing Appearance Is About More Than Pubic Hair!
All the other things which please a man about a woman’s grooming are common sense. Daily bathing, keeping fresh, exfoliating, and so on.
Having a suitable hair style which pleases both you and the man you’re with is important too. To be considerate in this way is simply good manners. So make sure that your appearance and grooming are to a high standard, and done with your partner’s pleasure in mind.
For example, hair can be a woman’s crowning glory. It’s certainly a major factor in ensuring that she looks attractive. However, high maintenance styles can be expensive, particularly if they are colored. Sometimes a simple style is more satisfying than a complicated one.
Surely this hardly needs saying, but cleaning your teeth twice a day is important. Equally, your nails are always on show. Even if you don’t want to varnish them or invest in expensive manicures, you can always choose to keep them clean and neat.
These are things with which many women make an effort in the early days of a relationship. However, when a relationship has been going for a while, standards may slip.
So to maintain mutual attraction, both the man and the woman need to ensure that they look pleasing to their partner. Simply follow all the above tips. And also, ensure your clothes are neat and well suited to whatever occasion calls you!
Also, please keep in mind that looking good is a major factor in maintaining high a self-esteem. In turn, high self-esteem contributes to a feeling of high self-worth. And this makes you feel that your relationship matters, and that you matter to your partner.
So it’s really worth making an effort to look good and feel good. This is not just to please your man, but also to please yourself.
If you feel that you lack charisma, then find a way of developing a more prominent and sparkling personality.
At the end of the day, all of these things speak volumes about how you feel about yourself. When you look in the mirror, do you like what you see? Do you feel proud and happy to be yourself?
If so, then it’s almost certain that your partner will look at you with pleasure and pride, both in and out of bed.