How to build sexual arousal in a man using combined massage of his penis, testicles, genital area and prostate gland. See powerful sex tips here.

When men masturbate, they tend to use a few hard and rhythmic strokes on their penis so they ejaculate as quickly as possible.

Very few men take the time and trouble to extend masturbation into a sensual act of self-pleasuring, and it’s even more unusual for men’s partners do this for them.

Yet, when a woman (or a gay man) offers their partner a luxurious penis massage, with the added pleasure of prostate stimulation, the results can be profoundly different to a session of masturbation where the object is to stimulate the penis to ejaculate as quickly as possible.

In a slow penile massage, sexual energy may flow through both partners, energizing and activating meridians and chakras, there can be several peaks of pleasure without ejaculation, and there may be a flow of lover energy between the couple. Sensuous massage of the penis can have some profound effects!

The basic idea here is that sensuous penile massage is an act of honoring the man by the woman.

 In essence she honors both him, and his sexuality as symbolized by his penis.

Giving Pleasure With Massage

This is his space and time to receive pleasuring – and, being male, this pleasuring does indeed center on his penis, though the rest of his body is not neglected, in what is essentially an erotic massage.

It all starts in a relaxed and comfortable space – a bedroom, perhaps, adorned with cushions, male images, candles, maybe incense, and whatever else symbolizes maleness and masculinity to the man concerned.

His partner may choose to give him a ceremonial bath before she massages him. The massage proper begins with him lying comfortably on his back, with his partner sitting between his legs so she has easy access to his penis and testicles.

If you’re doing this for your man, use plenty of oil on both his penis and the rest of his body. A good quality olive oil or massage oil is ideal for the sensitive skin of the penis.

(Water based lubes dry up in use, and when you’re offering your partner a long, sensuous massage to his penis, with attention to other parts of his body, you want to maintain a high level of lubrication.

Oil is also good for accessing his prostate gland through his anus, if you incorporate that into the massage.)

When you’re offering a man a session of penis massage, begin by dribbling plenty of oil sensuously onto his penis and scrotum.

Hold the base of his penile shaft with the forefinger and thumb of one hand, while circling the finger and thumb of the other hand slowly up and down his penile shaft from scrotum to glans.

You may wish to continue the stroke up and over the glans and across his frenulum to maximize the erotic sensations he feels.

While you do this, your partner must be relaxed and receptive, not worrying about time pressure or taking control. This is the realm of the lover, and slow and sensual energy must predominate here.

It’s his time to receive, though have him give occasional feedback to tell you which strokes he likes best on his body and penis.

Tantric massage

For the sexual element to be enjoyable, there are many  strokes which you can use on your man’s penis.

For example, try holding his penis at the base, pressing down slightly into his scrotum, while spiraling your other hand all the way from the base of his penile shaft up to his glans, winding your way to the very tip of his glans and bringing your hand right over the top of his penis before spiraling down again.

Or try holding his penis with both hands and rotating them in opposite directions around his shaft, moving your body sensuously back and forth in time with your movements.

If he hasn’t been circumcised, you can try stimulating his penis with his foreskin covering his glans – using plenty of oil for maximum pleasure.

When he’s more aroused, you can gently pull back his foreskin and stimulate his glans directly. 

Another way of varying these strokes is to hold his penis with both hands and move them in opposite directions around the shaft of the penis.

And yet another variation: hold the glans of your man’s penis against his belly and lightly tap all over the under-surface of his penis with the tips of your fingers.

There’s no limit to the ways in which you can stimulate your man’s penis, and the addition of plenty of oil makes the whole experience into a sensuous exploration of bodily pleasure.

But, as you may have noticed, many men masturbate using much more vigorous techniques, so there will be a point where it is necessary to increase the speed and force of your strokes so that your man moves more rapidly to the peak of his sexual arousal.

Now, depending on what you are aiming to achieve, you have various options. You can masturbate him to orgasm and let him ejaculate, which is very pleasant for him and perhaps sexually arousing for you as well. You can raise his arousal to a peak but not bring him over the edge into orgasm and ejaculation.

Or you can stimulate him and aim to keep him at the edge of orgasm for some time before he finally ejaculates. You might like to repeat the stimulation towards orgasm, stopping just short of ejaculation, and then repeat this process four or five times before finally bringing him to the point of ejaculation.

At this point, please note that if a man has trouble gaining an erection, it is still possible to offer sensuous massage to his flaccid penis.

You might ask “why do all this?” The answer is both simple and complex…..let me explain. The simple answer is that such techniques greatly increase the power and force of a man’s ejaculation, so that his sexual pleasure is greatly enhanced.

But there’s more to it than that.

If, for example, he’s aiming to gain greater control over his ejaculation, so that he lasts longer in bed, then the repeated-stimulation technique might be a helpful way of showing him that he does indeed have the potential to control his orgasm.

Sensual massage woman to man – around the penis

But the real reason, the one that most adherents of these advanced techniques would recognize, is that eventually you can get a man to a continuous orgasmic stream of energy without ejaculation, by keeping his arousal just below the point where he would naturally start to ejaculate.   

Here’s how you can do this. When you apply faster and more vigorous stimulation to his penis, watch for the impending signs of ejaculation. These include:

• a sudden hardening of his penis
• a fluttering feeling in the muscles of his genital region
• perhaps an arching of his back
• a change in his breathing
• a stiffening of the muscles of his thighs and stomach
• and the movement of his scrotum and testicles upwards towards his body.

You may also see the emission of lots of clear pre-ejaculatory fluid from the end of his penis.

(In fact, when a man is in “orgasmic flow”, with energy surging through his body as he remains in a state of high arousal immediately before he would normally ejaculate, for long periods of time, the amount of this clear “pre-come” which is emitted can be considerable.)

So, to enjoy the prolonged session of orgasmic bliss that is possible with repeated peaking but no ejaculation, it is necessary for your man to tell you when he is approaching the moment of ejaculation.

You will then stop stimulating his penis, and wait until his urge to ejaculate has passed, which it will do in a few minutes, before you begin to stroke his penis again, using any or all of the movements which you used before.

However, great care is needed not to pass the point at which his ejaculation will inevitably occur.

After four or five approaches, you can finish the session by bringing him to a rapid and powerful orgasm.

Or not, as you see fit – some men get so much pleasure from the preceding phases that they don’t feel the need for their partner to masturbate their penis to ejaculation. 

What I’ve described above is the basic form of repeated peaking, and it can provide a man with a great deal of pleasure. However, there are refinements which can make it even more enjoyable.

First of all, some thoughts for men receiving this kind of penile stimulation from their partner.

Video – Peaking

If you can communicate with your partner during the repeated peaking exercise it will make things easier for her to stimulate your penis in the way that most appeals to you.

Don’t just accept what she does – give her real feedback so she can increase her skills at pleasuring you.

And don’t let concerns about time pressure get in the way of your pleasure; equally, don’t be concerned about fully expressing how you feel sexually, with moans, sighs, grunts, other noises, bodily movements, hip thrusting, or whatever else seems to be an appropriate way of expressing your arousal. 

If you wish, you can reach around and play with your anus, which may feel very erotic – the same is true of your nipples.

While you may have preconceptions about what is manly or masculine, don’t let these preconceptions stand in the way of receiving greater pleasure! So while you may well like to have your penis rubbed between your partner’s breasts (for example), would you willingly accept her finger playing on your anus?

If not, you might be missing something both arousing and erotic – the anus is a very erotically sensitive part of the body. But of course if the idea turns you off, then it is not necessary to indulge…..

And of course it is the route to the prostate, massage of which can feel very exciting and can also lead to extended states of orgasmic flow without ejaculation.

If your partner stimulates your prostate at the same time as she massages, rubs and fondles your penis, you will experience considerably more arousal, and be more likely to get into an extended orgasmic state than in almost any other way.

Multiple orgasm for men video

One way to get familiar with these new sensations is to enjoy massage of the whole perineal area and the anus, with oil, and a gentle finger.

If you’ve washed well beforehand, and cleaned inside your anal canal with a finger, there’s not likely to be any waste matter hanging around.

This is about expanding the boundaries of your sexual experience beyond the penis-centric approach we men have tended to take as the norm.

And when all is said and done, out failure to fully appreciate the erotic potential of our own bodies is more often than not the product of inhibitions misguidedly placed on us by our parents, who “give” us our basic attitude to our bodies during childhood.