Be Sexually Pleasured Like A King!

Imagine the romantic images of the King in his harem, with a bevy of beauties whose main role was to pleasure the Sovereign! This might let you imagine a sense of what it would be like to enter into the process of sensual massage!

But there are details which need to be addressed first. Erectile dysfunction, for example. Another is those annoying residues of trauma stored in the body.

One of these is physical tension around the anus comes partly from childhood inhibitions, but it also comes from a variety of other causes:

• anger that is not expressed
• insensitive medical examinations
• making love in the missionary position, where the thrusting required of a man makes his buttocks tense and leaves layers of muscular tension around his pelvis and anus.

Breaking through all that is important, because when your prostate is massaged internally by a loving partner, the pleasure of your sexual energy can spread from your penis to your prostate gland in a process analogous to a woman’s pleasure spreading from clitoris to G spot.

Combined stimulation of penis and prostate leads to both internal and external sensations of pleasure. 

To break down the physical and emotional inhibitions which might make prostate massage seem like a threatening idea, a gradual approach is required, involving plenty of lube, gentle probing, and last but not least, well-trimmed fingernails!

I’ll get on to the mechanics of exactly how your partner can enter your body in a minute. First, though, I offer some ways in which you can gradually work up to internal prostate massage / stimulation. 

So, if you were the man receiving this massage, here are some ideas for greater pleasure.

Start a session of sexual exploration by greeting each other in a loving way, offering a heart salutation, and then have your partner vigorously massage your lower back, buttocks, sacrum, pelvic area and the tops of your thighs.

Then lie on your back, have her relax and connect with you as she cups your penis and testicles in her hands, and then ask her to begin using her massage and stroking techniques on your penis.

It is important you are aroused sufficiently before she approaches your prostate.

Let her massage your penis with oil as before, using the strokes and techniques she learned in previous sessions of penile play, and remember to tell her before you get to the point of no return so you can avoid ejaculating.

As you relax, your partner can stop stimulating your penis and leave her hand resting on your penis and testicles until your arousal has dropped and you are ready to begin again.

Let this process of stimulation almost to the point of orgasm alternate with stopping stimulation for about fifteen to twenty minutes. After you’ve reached several peaks of arousal, your partner can explore the external area above your prostate, your perineum.

The area may be insensitive because it has not yet been opened up to pleasure: to wake it up, have your partner press into the area between your scrotum and anus and explore it, while you tell her what level of pressure feels best, and where it is most sensitive.

This is also the point where pressure applied externally by your partner can prevent ejaculation when you are highly aroused. 

Your partner can vibrate her hand against your perineum while she holds the shaft and head of your penis with her other hand.

Such techniques will energize the area around the perineum, getting it ready for prostate stimulation. Read about sexual energy flow in men here.

Have your partner apply more oil to your penis and let her stroke the shaft, using whatever movements you like the most.

 When you’re erect, have her massage your perineum, either rubbing up and down or in a circular motion, while she massages your penis at the same time.

A good way of doing this is for your partner to hold the base of your penis in her right hand, while with her left hand she makes a circle of thumb and index finger, encircling your scrotum, so that the scrotum lies in the palm of her hand while the back of her hand lies against your perineum.

In this way, she can stroke your penis with her right hand while vibrating her left hand on your perineum. She may need to maneuver so that she is comfortable and can reach your penis and genital area without difficulty. 

Massage of the perineum and penis together can produce very exciting sensations; they may feel strange at first, but if you relax into them, they will rapidly become familiar and pleasurable.

It’s possible that you will lose your erection as your partner stimulates your prostate and perineum – this is not a problem, for she can continue massaging your penis whether it is flaccid or erect.

The essence of the experience is to generate sexual arousal and intense physical pleasure, not necessarily a massive erection!  This is called hyperstimulation.

After becoming familiar with the sensation of combined penile and perineal massage, it’s time for the big one – the move into internal prostate massage.

You may well wish to douche gently, with a little warm water, before you start. This is certainly something that will be appreciated by your partner, as it removes any particles of waste matter from the rectum.

The ultimate orgasm is achieved by blended sensations that come from prostate massage and penile stimulation.

It combines strong male energy in the penis with softer, perhaps more feminine energy in the prostate, to give a unique sensation of orgasm. 

Your partner must have trimmed nails, smoothly filed so there are no sharp edges.

If you’ve douched, there’s no need to use latex gloves unless you have any reason to suspect there may be an infection issue – for example if your partner is a carrier of hepatitis.

Make sure you have plenty of time – at least a couple of hours devoted to this practice. 

As before, your partner will sit between your legs – or wherever is most comfortable for her – with easy access to your penis.

As before, she will begin by massaging, stroking and stimulating your penis with her hand and plenty of good quality oil – olive oil or massage oil is excellent for the purpose.

She will bring you up towards the point of no return at least once before exploring your prostate, and all the time she is exploring it, she will maintain contact with your penis.

She can gain access to your body by oiling your buttock cleft, then massaging sensitively the external area over the prostate.

She will then move on to your anus, all the while keeping up her stimulation of your penis.

Certainly, this can be a scary experience if you are new to it, but if you allow yourself to sink into the pleasure, it will become an arousing and desirable experience in no time.

When the time feels right, your partner should ask if you are ready to allow her into your body.

If your answer is yes, then she can gently press into you using plenty of lube. If you gently pump your PC muscle, you will make it easier for her finger to penetrate your anus.

Your partner can slowly and carefully enter you with her index finger.

If your anus tenses up, then she can pause for a moment to allow it time to relax – and you can help this by breathing deeply and consciously relaxing your anus.

When she is inside, she can move her finger around the inner ring of the anal sphincter, where she may find tension which she can gently massage away.

Once she is in, welcome the sensations, enjoy the feeling, and stay aware as she explores inside your body.

If she curves her finger upwards, she’ll encounter an object which feels like a walnut – your prostate gland.

When she presses against it, you may feel something deeply pleasurable, or it may just feel strange. In either case, welcome the sensations.

Take plenty of time to explore how it feels and get accustomed to being sensitively massaged in this area.

Guide your partner as she moves her finger about, telling her what feels good and what level of pressure is best for you.

You may need to spend two or three sessions practicing this before the sensations become pleasurable.

In any case, don’t give up, for the results of combined penis and prostate massage are remarkable! Your partner can use her middle finger to massage the prostate – and she can use any one of three types of strokes.

She can make a zigzag motion across the surface of the prostate, massaging both it and the tissues surrounding it; she can move her finger up and down the prostate; or she can keep her finger on the prostate and vibrate her whole hand.

She should be using plenty of lubricant, both on your penis, where she will be maintaining her stimulation all the time she massages your prostate internally, and inside on your prostate gland. 

You can move, or you can remain still, as you choose, while your partner pleasures you. You may wish to make a noise, to release whatever emotions come up.

You may relax into the experience or stay alert. Whatever comes up for you is OK. And for the first few sessions that you try this, keep it short.

Obviously you’ll stop if there is any sense of discomfort.

It may take five or more sessions for your prostate to become sensitized to the touch of your partner, so keep trying if at first it feels as though you are not getting anywhere.

All of the techniques here are described in Margot Anand’s book “Sexual Ecstasy, The Art Of Orgasm“, which is obviously very useful to have by your side if you want to develop these techniques to the full.